-Basic Fear- Of being helpless, useless, incapable/ overwhelmed
-Basic Desire- To be capable and competent
-Superego Message- "You are good or okay if you have mastered something."
-fives want to find out why things are the way they are.
-always searching asking questions delving into things in depth
-they do not accept doctrines
-test the truth of most assumptions
*fives feel that they do not have an ability to do things as well as others*
-rather than engaging directly with activities that might bolster their confidence, they take a step back into their minds where they feel more capable
-their belief is that in the safety of their minds, they will eventually figure out how to do things and one day rejoin the world
-they are not interested in exploring what is already familiar and well established--drawn to the unusual, overlooked, bizarre
-for better or worse, the areas that fives explore do not depend on social validation; fives become lost in the complexities of their own thought processes, becoming merely eccentric and socially isolated
-whatever the source of their anxieties might be--relationships, lack of physical strength, inability to gain employment, and so forth, average fives tend not to deal with these issues. rather they find something else to do that will make them feel more competent.
-learning to cut themselves off of nurturance--even from desiring it--becomes a way of defending themselves against further hurts and frustrations
-fives go through life avoiding the thing they most want, repressing their longing an dfinding substitute pleasures in interests, hobbies, and creativity
-you value and are attracted to wisdom, knowledge, understanding
-your passions are of the mind
-you are a seeker of truth
-you are a perceptive, insightful, original thinker
- you have the ability to objectively and dispassionately observe
-you are good at abstracting, synthesizing, and integrating different points of view and disparate elements
-you are a fair, nonjudgmental witness
-you can overidentify with the idealized self-image of being wise and perceptive. you live too much out of your head and forget you also have feelings and a body
-you can be overly intellectual. you may be afraid of and out of touch with your feelings
-you can become overly analytical and skeptical. your questioning can interfere with your acting
-you may be unwilling to consider others' perceptions and ideas
-you may stay in the observer position and not participate in life
-you may not make a decision or act until you have the certitude that you have all the facts. you want to know everything before you do anything
-you may be unwilling to disclose your position
-you are a good listener. you are gentle, patient, and nonthreatening
-you have the ability to get to the essence or heart of the matter. you can peer through extraneous details to get to basic structures.
-you can communicate in clean, clear, concise statements about what the issue really is
-you have an appreciation for solitude
-you are independent and resourceful
-you are reserved, respectful, and nonintrusive
-you may not contribute much to conversations. you let others do all the talking
-you can reduce life to bare dry bones and miss the juicy parts
-you can be stingy with your communications. you speak in epigrams or one-liners and are unwilling to elaborate
-you can be addicted to privacy
-you can be a loner who wants to do everything out of your own resources
-you have overdeveloped the tendency to move away from people. it's difficult for you to move forward with either affection or assertion.
-you are generous with your self, feelings, ideas, and time
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